It’s been 7 days since we took to the polls and I, along with half of America, have been grieving in the aftermath. If you’re not part of that half, I still hope you find some value in these words.
Evolution is often quite painful. I think of a snake shedding its skin… they feel uncomfortable and vulnerable in that process. Or I think of a mother giving birth. There’s a lot of preparation, a lot of love, a lot of fear, a lot of risk, and often a lot of pain before a new life comes into the world. Or I think of the magnificent crystals which are created in darkness under immense pressure.
It’s clear I like to process my thoughts and feelings via metaphors.
So there’s that saying “it’s always darkest before the dawn.” I don’t think we’re near the dawn. But I and we and our collective consciousness are indeed evolving.
I also know that as a white, cisgendered, straight woman who has had the privilege of going to a private university, my struggles do not scratch the surface of the adversity in this country, before or after our the 2016 Presidential Election. That’s why I work to make the American dream big enough for everyone. Because how dare I not?
So this is what I’ve learned from the 2016 election:
1) I let myself live in my naïveté far too long, and I was ignorant to just how frustrated and divided our nation is. I was finding myself speaking up for the socially and culturally disenfranchised, but not necessarily educating myself on the economically disenfranchised who are in despair as their livelihoods dry up. Shame on me.
2) I will never do that again. My goal is to see the world as clearly as I can from as many points of view as I can (see TED Talk below on this!)
3) Therefore, I must
✚ Share my point-of-view with not just facts, but more importantly with a compassion and a willingness to learn that which I don’t yet understand. We all just want to be seen and heard. Also we must remember that if our goal is to move forward and get ish done, then name-calling and insulting the “other side” makes zero progress in allowing the “other side” to understand our POV. It only alienates them further. And we are very much a part of the problem when we alienate each other in our self-righteousness.
✚ Lovingly encourage everyone to do ^^
✚ Seek and hear opposing opinions.
In both my physical and Facebook worlds, I was part of a bubble of like-minded thinkers. My new hope is that when I–and you–include more kinds of voices expressed with respect–so that we can open each other’s minds.
✚ Fact-check everything. Ev-er-y-thing.
✚ Remind myself of the above every dog-gone day, not every 4 years.
So below I’m sharing a few things from across the web that helped me this week. Perhaps they can offer something to get you inspired, equipped, educated, and maybe even eek out a chuckle. I hope these resources come at a time when you could use the support and learn something new.
With love–and I mean that,
P.S. Please feel free to reach out to me in the comments! All I ask is that you too share from a compassionate and respectful heart.
Hey readers on Facebook mobile right now, to view the links below, open this article via your mobile browser because Facebook is not allowing these links to load… we’ve sent in a developer request and we’re not the only ones frustrated with the external link issue. xoxo, Lucy
MUST WATCH: Why you think you’re right — even if you’re wrong TED
If You’re Overwhelmed by the Political Future, Here’s How to Deal Right Now Huffington Post
MUST WATCH: The Women Who Won Election 2016 Makers
Mean Girls is a funny movie, but mean girls IRL…not so much. Here’s how to get jiggy with your kind self even when other girls are not. Like a Boss Girls
A letter to America from Leslie Knope, regarding Donald Trump Vox
MUST WATCH: Our President Elect is a Blessing in Disguise
Bernie Sanders Could Replace President Trump With Little-Known Loophole Huffington Post
Detecting Bullshit is a hella valuable life skill that can save you time, money and heartbreak. Turns out, there’s a totally scientific way to do it. Let BS slaying become YOUR superpower Brain Pickings
Voted for Trump? I have only one plea Medium
The Trump Phenomenon explained by someone who used to be one of “them” Cracked
MUST WATCH: Just Try Not Get Inspired by This Teacher’s Response to The Election Buzzfeed
Now need a laugh? Cue the internet. The Observer
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