Life is tough on all of us, and quite frankly, it becomes too hard to deal.
We all have moments of codependency.
Especially in times of desperation.
In order to do more than just survive, we need good friends at our side to push us toward the point of greatness. In a time of distress, people will always reveal themselves. Your girlfriends are responsible for pulling you up from your lowest moments in life. It’s time to do a friendship audit of the people you should always keep around. Here are six girlfriends that are essential to your growth.
1. The Level-headed Girlfriend
This girlfriend will always be your voice of reason. She’ll take your problems, analyze them and find the best possible solution. She’s direct and isn’t exactly the shoulder to cry on. Her logic is what you need on the days when you’ve dug a hole that only she can pull you out of.
2. The Generous Girlfriend
This is the friend who will randomly call you up and take you out for a girls day, her treat. She’s your girlfriend therapy. Talking about your problems is totally up to you. They know you’ve been in a funk and will do whatever is necessary to get you back to the person everyone knows and loves. You can pour your heart out to her any time you need.
3. The No Nonsense Girlfriend
This girlfriend loves you but isn’t about to have you rain on her parade. By now, she is all too familiar with your mood swings and won’t join your revolution of pessimism. She knows when you’re blowing hot air and is tired of your drama. She won’t entertain your mess. It’ll hurt just for a second, but her tough love is required for your growth.
4. The Painfully Honest Friend
The sarcastic friend who basically repeats everything you say to let you know how silly you sound. She uses your own negativity against you. She is annoying as hell but is the clear mirror you need sometimes to see how foggy your thought process has become.
5. The Image Consultant Friend
She’ll tell you which posts to delete and which jerks to kick to the curb. When it’s time to lose five pounds, she’ll tell you it’s time to lose five pounds, together. She wants to see you in tip-top shape, both mentally and physically. Consider her the “fixer” a.k.a. your personal Olivia Pope.
6. The Big Picture Girlfriend
She sees your greatness even when you cannot. This friend is constantly crafting out a master plan for your destiny. When you’re being a pessimist, count on her to come up with 1,000 reasons as to why you’re really blessed beyond measure. This girlfriend has always seen the light at the end of the tunnel and is waiting on you to join her there. She’s excited about your life, even in the not so exciting times.
Just like you need them, there are women counting on you to be one (or more) of the above. What kind of girlfriend are you? Your girls are counting on you.
Once you find your tribe…
Never let them go.
Because they’re the ones that will always go to war for you.