How often do you attach your happiness to external goals like when I have ________ I’ll be happy (insert lots of moolah, the perfect job, an awesome S.O. here)?
And even when we reach some of these milestones, the happiness can be fleeting if we’re not happy with who we ARE.
We get caught in the have-nots, should-nots, could-nots. It’s a little self-made prison that keeps us from fully living and experiencing all the gifts that life has to offer.
When we love ourselves unconditionally and are taking action to be our best selves, the external moment-to-moment events have less pull on our happy meter.
When you start loving yourself…
- You are excited to be you
- You don’t blame yourself when things go wrong that were out of your control…
- You learn, take steps to change, and forgive yourself when you’ve messed up
- You are less afraid to be honest about who you are
Loving yourself is a consistent daily practice. Like when you shower, are you suddenly clean for life? No! You’ve got to refresh and get clean every day (or somewhere in the 24-hour range!)
Finding a way to love and respect yourself is no different. It’s one of the most impactful daily practices you can
do. Yet it can be a great struggle for those who’ve allowed themselves to believe self-love is the same as selfishness. Fun fact: it’s not.
Here are 22 wise quotes we love because they encourage us to see the good we can bring to OTHERS when you start to love YOURSELF unconditionally….
“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
– Louise L. Hay
“Imperfections are not inadequacies; they are reminders that we’re all in this together.”
– Brené Brown
“Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt
“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
– Stacey Charter
“You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.”
– Diane Von Furstenberg
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
“Your problem is you’re… too busy holding onto your unworthiness.”
– Ram Dass
“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.”
– Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
“If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.”
– Barbara De Angelis
“It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes.”
– Sally Field
“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small. My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.”
– Kim McMillen
“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.”
– Bob Moawad
“Allow yourself to enjoy each happy moment in your life.”
~ Steve Maraboli
“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.”
– C. Joybell C.
“Each time a woman stands up for herself, without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for all women.”
– Maya Angelou
“We all have the tendency to believe self-doubt and self-criticism, but listening to this voice never gets us closer to our goals. Instead, try on the point of view of a mentor or good friend who believes in you, wants the best for your, and will encourage you when you feel discouraged.”
– Kelly McGonigal
“And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.”
– John Steinbeck
“People who love themselves come across as very loving, generous and kind; they express their self-confidence through humility, forgiveness and inclusiveness.”
– Sanaya Roman
“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.”
– Steve Maraboli
“Accept yourself. Love yourself as you are. Your finest work, your best movements, your joy, peace, and healing comes when you love yourself. You give a great gift to the world when you do that. You give others permission to do the same: to love themselves. Revel in self-love. Roll in it. Bask in it as you would sunshine.”
– Melodie Beattie.
“You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.”
– Brené Brown
No more waiting, no more feeling obligated, no more discrediting yourself. Instead, experience a new sense of freedom.
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